Thursday, June 20, 2013 at 6:41am

Act the Way You Want to Feel

I was recently featured on this rad site:  Act the Way you Want to Feel run by a rad chic in SF named Lindsay who is a yogi heart, straight shooter, and hell of a good time!

When I was approached to submit my answers, I will tell you, I felt somewhat like a phony.  I wrote a lot about moving my body and the love of sweat and signing out loud.  And while writing it, I will be honest and tell you that I had not sweat once that whole week, okay more like the whole month.  Coming back from a carb loaded and wine fest of a vacation, I felt swamped in the catch up of work and put the sweating off to the way side.

However, when I came to pressing send on the answers that day, I immediately got up and went for a run.  It was almost like, well, you better rock what you write.  Act like you want to feel, and by act, I mean get in action, Jacki!  Endorphins make me a better person, for real.

And thus, I love what this blog is about.  Sharing how you want to feel and then getting your ass in action to feel that way.  And I want to share it with you!

I urge you to write down how you want to feel.  Answer the same questions I did, (posted below) and share them with my girl, Linds!  And then, I say, get in action and figure out a way to feel that way.

- how do you want to feel?
- what is it that you do to feel that way?
- do you have an intention or a mantra that you work with?
- what’s your go-to feel good fix?
Check out the blog here:  http://www.actthewayyouwanttofeel.com/
Twitter:  @acttheway
Boom!
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Thursday, June 20, 2013 at 6:41am

Yes and No

My man looked at me with his big blue eyes and team shirt on and asked if I was going to watch the big playoff game with him.  As much as I love that face, I had to say no, not this time.  I told him I was going to a sweaty yoga class instead and I wanted to start my week off healthy.

He sulked for a matter of 22 seconds and then he got it.  He rushed out the door to meet his dude friends. Wow, was it that easy?  I totally thought I was going to let him down.  Off to yoga I go.

Lately, our schedule has been jam-packed.  For some reason, I thought I owned our social calendar.  However, after leaving town for most of May, I come home to my man making all these plans. Don’t get me wrong, I have had an absolute blast with him and our incredible friends and I actually enjoy him taking the reigns on the calendar.  And to be really real, I am tired, my jeans are a wee bit tight and I need a minute to catch up on me.  To catch up on the Jacki of Jacki & Chris.  You feel me?

Relationships are so interesting. There is communication, compromise and constant connection. You can wake up one day having the most amazing morning and then that same afternoon is a crazy shit storm.  It is hilarious and such a course in life I could have never prepared for.  It is so in-your-face present.

And what I have learned is that you have to be able to say ‘yes’ and be able to say ‘no’.

I know I love spending time with Chris and our friends at a bar with sports blaring from the multiple TVs and perhaps an order of chicken wings and a cold one, and I really, really do; I also know that I love time to write, hike, time to sweat, time to drink some delicious juice or red wine.  From chicken wings & beer to sweaty yoga & juice, it just sounds funny.  And it sounds fun.  I want time for all of that!

And I remind myself: you, my friend, you get to pick what you want to do and how to make it all fit, those red jeans included. Find balance in the yes and no.  Find quality time together with Chris, your rad friends and that cute dog AND also make space for quality time with you.  (Note:  This is how I talk to myself).

How I check in is to pay a visit to my goals, I check in with my energy levels and get real on what I need to rock, and I cross reference this said social calendar with my life JOY list.  Is there goal coaching in there, hiking, wine with friends, alone time, a bubble bath?

Know that you might go off balance one week, but before you get lost in the shuffle of a social/work/relationship/life calendar the next week, take a minute to check in, ask yourself where you can rock the yes or rock the no and then be all in.

Let’s go!

 

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Thursday, June 20, 2013 at 6:41am

When In Rome…

I have been off the blog front and for good reason.
I was in Italy traveling with my newly college grad of a sister!

NOTE:  A trip that would by no means EVER have happened if it were not for my best friend, Alex Christensen and her travel agent-like skills in planning everything from our route, finding cheap air fares to hostel recommendations.  People, SHARE your goals!  If you have rad best friends like me, they will help you get there!

So, in an epic 11 day adventure, we stopped in Milan, we drank a lot of red wine, had the best pizza and hiked in Cinque Terra, we explored, got lost, rode the metro water-bus system and sang in Venice, we got really lost, climbed a cathedral, loved Statue of David, drank a lot of Belinis and Prossecco and ate amazing sandwiches in Florence, we biked 18 miles through Tuscany to drink local Chianti wine, learn about the wine, buy a box of it and basically drench our food in the best olive oil ever in the city of Chianti, and we explored ancient history, met the Pope and allowed our mouths to drop when we took in the beauty of the Sistine Chapel in Rome!

The trip was a dream.  We rode plains, trains, bikes and boats.  We ate pasta, pizza and drank more red wine than any human should consume in 11 days.  We laughed, we cried, we hiked, and we had the best time together. In all honestly, the country is absolutely beautiful.  However, what is more beautiful is the absolute memory bank of time spent with my sister, the connection we created and the bond we continue to create.

Family is the real deal.  I am overcome with gratitude and love.  Thank you to my sister for traveling with me, sharing clothes with me, laughing and sipping sweet wine with me.  I am so proud of you, I love you.  We went to see the World because I know you deserve the World.

Book the next trip.  I am ready!

 

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Thursday, June 20, 2013 at 6:41am

What I Learned at 2013 99U Conference

This past week I was granted the opportunity to attend the 99U Conference in NYC. I am in love with my job that sends me to rad conferences with speakers like Brene Brown, Scott Belsky, Cal Newport, Ramit Sethi and Michael Wolff, who share their knowledge to better me as a creative person. And, I want to share that knowledge with you:

1) Think about your job. First ask, is this worth my time? Hopefully you said yes. Now, when you close your eyes and think about success in your work now or in the future, ask yourself what impact have you had on the World? You are responsible for creating a future that would otherwise not exist, what are you getting up to in order to make that future better? @meetup

2) Without vulnerability, you cannot create. Vulnerability takes courage. I want you to know that if COURAGE is a value you have, you are going to get your ass kicked. Why? Because you are living it that big. Own it. @brenebrown

3) There is a common theme in corporations to try to get ‘more’ out of their people through pushing and pushing. However, you will always yield better results across the board when you invest and listen to your people. @tonyschwartz

4) There is an endless stream of connectivity: emails, texts, Facebook, Messages, Twitter, DM, LinkedIn, VM, Behance, paper mail… We have entered an era of REACTIONARY workflow. Commit to creating time in your calendar, giving yourself windows of time of non-stimulation. @scottbelsky

5) If everyone thinks you are crazy, you are actually crazy OR really onto something. @scottbelsky

6) Teach your clients to revere your work. Be crystal clear on the value of what you are offering. @ramitsethi

7) Surround yourself with a community that is supportive and compassionate about the product you are creating. THIS will rock the culture and actually become/create the brand. @leahbusque

8) Ask why, why, why? Work that muscle of curiosity until it almost become unbearable.  This will feed and enrich the imagination. @michaelwolff

9) Success is not final. NEVER let success get in the way of creativity. @joshuadavis

10) See red tape, the waiting game that you encounter as part of the art, part of the game. Patience is clutch when executing. @ajjacobs

I could actually go on and on and on. There were a lot of juicy notes, such passion from the speakers, and amazing creators in the audience.

What I feel compelled to share is how inspired I am to get in action. I know that I am one radical goal coach and yet I sit in fear waiting to launch my idea of goal coaching meets hiking. Workshops, retreats and my future in an Airstream office parked at the trailhead. An idea I know in all of my being is worth sharing!

I am ready to create, fail fast and make shit happen.

I ask you to hold me accountable. As soon as I get back from an amazing adventure with my sister in Italy celebrating her college graduation with backpacks, wine and gluten-FULL pasta, please hold me accountable.

See you On the Rocks.

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Thursday, June 20, 2013 at 6:41am

Twas a Hungry Monday

I started the week off in a rush.  I had an early morning conference call and poured out of bed on Monday with ear buds already in my ear and did not rock any of my morning rituals.  Skipping normal human activities like: food, getting dressed, time with dog via walk in sun, some hot decaf drink of choice … the likes.

And thus, the course of my Monday was rushed, stressful and hungry.  Yes, a day can be classified as hungry.

I remember looking at my clock at 3:50pm that day, knowing I had a yoga class scheduled for 4:15pm. I was still sitting behind my computer not in yoga clothes.  I went through the debate in my head and it went like this:

“Should I go?  Should I stay and get work done?  Should I cancel on my friends that I told I was coming?  I haven’t really eaten enough today for this hot class. Oh man, I hate being late, if I am going, I really should have left 2 minutes ago. So, maybe I will not go.  Wow, this has been a shit day, I really should go, I could use the yoga.”

(Note the irony in the time wasted with that craziness in my head, actually contributing to the rush)

Finally after the absurd and ridiculous two minute excuses debate, I decided to go. Naturally, as Monday would have it, I rushed.

Sweat, breath and a lot of child’s pose later, I felt better. And I committed to slow it down for the week. It feels way better and no one wins when I am rushed.

And when I say I committed, I really committed to slow it down. Tuesday came along and I went to open my computer first thing and paused to instead grab the dog leash. That afternoon I went to grab the Vespa keys and paused to instead grab the bike lock keys and take that one speed beach cruiser. I meant to post this blog on Tuesday, but alas it is Friday.

So what I am telling you is: get your ass to yoga. No, no just kidding. What I am sharing is that every day you have choice to re-create the direction. Find a way to check yourself before your wreck yourself, let go of excuses and shift.

Actually, you can do it right now!

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